Money and sex are lumped together for a valuable reason. Sex and/or money are usually the culprits behind a broken marriage. Investigating your money mindset and story can save your intimate relationships!
I find our hidden money mindsets fascinating! We are programmed into money beliefs as early as seven years old.
We are downloaded with money messages that continuously design our thoughts, choices, careers and lifestyles. If your parents lived in a poverty mindset (regardless of how much money in the bank, they could be millionaires!) you are most likely uncomfortable surviving and struggling around money.
Here is my take.....
Everyone has a unique relationship with money and yet most people don’t realize they have the power to design or shift this relationship.
Once I got curious with how money spoke to me, I heard money in a new way and believe me, it was NOT pleasurable. It was actually excruciating!
I have always believed myself as a person who didn’t need money. I valued people, intelligence, creativity and experience NOT money. However, my hidden money story controlled and stunted my development in ways that baffled me.
I was enslaved to a money story that polluted my thinking in EVERY AREA of my life: men, career, earning, saving/spending, schools, friendships, communities, parenting, marriage, EVERYTHING!
Money holds a powerful desire state that can either wake you up to your need for significance or completely swallow you up from every seeing your value. Learning to organize a integrated abundant mindset will shift your relationships with money and people.
Do you struggle and constantly try to FIX your intimate relationships? Have you ever investigated your intimate relationship with money? You might surprised what you find!!
Many people struggle to meet their Need for Significance. Our Need for Significance is one of our Critical 4 Needs, along with Variety, Consistency and Love-Connection.
I often find with many of my clients, who have Love-Connection as their top need struggle with how to meet their need for significance. The Need for Love and Connection hijacks all our other needs, especially their need for Significance. They unsuccessfully try to meet all their critical needs through Love and Connection. This sets up very stormy relationship cycles (relationships and/or work stories).
The work is learning to meet these buried and hidden critical needs in dynamic new ways.
The money relationship holds a special key to meet our critical needs in activating ways. Many times, untangling the money story will activate a new intimate relationship story.
Untangling your 4 critical needs and organizing them in dynamic new ways is an amazing process. Very often, people are confused with how to meet their needs in healthy ways so they subconsciously organize into suffering states. Suffering states are there for us to learn, get curious and start organizing in new ways.
The more suffering a "suffering state" holds, the more transformation is possible. We have to learn to house our needs in new ways if we want to convert suffering states into thriving experiences.
Angela McKinney, mindset coach and lifestyle expert, inspires bravery in her clients by helping convert suffering survival states into ones of meaning.
Angela is a creative force who is truly passionate about empowering people to get out of hiding and claim a new experience with life. She is an artist, entrepreneur, wife, mother of 2 boys and lover of her life’s work! To learn more about the Angela McKinney and Untangle and Thrive CLICK HERE